Coaching

The History Channel is just about the sum total of my willing experience with television.  Their series “Modern Marvels” covers everything from the history and production of chocolate, to catching and processing fish in the waters off Alaska, to the design and production of lenses for cameras.  It is my channel of choice.   I would go so far as to say the series I am watching now-“The History of Us”-about the history of the formation of this country-is so incredibly well done I barely blink my eyes for fear of missing something.  Given that this time of year I can barely stay awake for my dinner at eight, this is saying a lot. I am glued to the edge of my seat; last night I learned more about the American revolution in one hour than all the days I spent in history class spanning many years.  Riveting.  Whomever wrote, filmed, and produced this series has a compassionate eye, a ruthless genius for editing, and an incomparable eye for matching words with images.  Paul Revere-they made much of the man, running up to his midnight ride. The dumping of 1,000,000,000 dollars worth of tea into Boston Harbor-this program conveyed the enormity of this rebellion. The big idea here-I learned so much.  I learned more about what has been part of my history and experience for going on 60 years.  Learning can come anytime, yes?  I have a new notion about the formation of our country-via the history channel.   In my opinion, should you be able to set aside the worries and frustrations of the day, this series will make it easy for you to understand why our country is indisputably unique. A population that is astonishingly volatile, bright, verbal, energetic, unpredictable,-forward thinking.  There are so many stories-would that I could hear each and every one of them. 

 There are those who would perennially focus on what goes awry-this is easy to do.  Hindsight is dead to right, is it not?  To act with vision and courage-not so ordinary.  Those for whom criticism pays the mortgage, or drives the blood pressure up to dangerous heights-better you than me. Though I spent lots of time sorting out what is not working well,  I like to focus on what goes right, what is thoughtful, the satisfaction I see people get from making things grow.  No doubt I have had more than my share of challenges this spring.  A  new knee not  up to speed.  A landscape project I thought would be finished last fall is still going on-the building contractor whose supervision of his building project is hit and miss has forced me into a spring position I regret.  All the spring construction on the roads-my crew is spending better than three hours a day travelling-in lieu of getting the work done. It has been ninety degrees every day for a week. I have a lot of work ahead of me. Frustrating, but not earth shattering.

Would I have been an American at the time of the American Revolution, would I have stepped up to the plate?  Could I have been a committed member of the American Revolution?  This History Channel program made me ask this question of myself. No matter how difficult and stressful my issues are, pay no mind.  I plant flowers this time of year-this is not about freedom, and representation. It’s about flowers, trees, beauty, design-nothing more.  The revolution that formed this country was enormous.  Driving that revolution, a  belief that everyone is entitled to access to knowledge. The program made much of this. 

I teach, and coach. It is my instinct to do this-I was raised to believe that the transmission of knowledge was the most important requirement for a life properly lived.  I would explain anything about the plants, my process, my take on design.  I have been speaking to groups for the better part of 20 years, mostly at no charge.  I am able to teach, so I should.  Reaching is taking the time to articulate why and how I dod what I do.  I have certain obligations to the community, beyond paying taxes. Everyone does.  That is what community means.   Even those requests that have nothing to do with my business-fine.  I usually say yes.  Give and take-simple.

I insist that everyone who works for me do the same. My entire staff is willing and able to coach.  This is how I would have it.  Should you need help with plants, or a scheme for a pot-Christine or Rob are more than able to help.  Seeking to outfit a terrace with pots and furniture-Catherine or Rob.  Ask for them. Rob’s patience and persistence getting something to work is something of a legend.   We are a business that believes that everyone is entitled to knowledge.  We have some knowledge;  it is yours for the asking.  Should we not have something, we can tell you where else to try. My crews get more teaching from me than they would ask for.  This notwithstanding, they listen to me, and they act upon what I say.  They respect me.  We have had a very long, and good relationship.  My work-the success of it depends on the passing along of knowledge from one generation to the next, one group to the next-from us-to you.  

I write this blog, from the firm conviction that every person in my gardening group is entitled to the body of my knowledge.  Where there is no firm knowledge, I have my opinion.  Why would I not make the effort to pass along what I have learned, or believe to be true?  The first Americans believed that everyone, equally, were entitled to access to the existing body of knowledge-a new country was in the process of becoming.  Many may reject my ideas about how to plant this, or where to place that.  I have no problem with this. Look at the body of knowledge, and draft a point of view all your own.  I would encourage any gardener sizing up the merits of organic food, the vintage vegetable seed mania, the new perennial offerings, this design versus that-whatever is new to you, I would advise you to accept what you want, and leave the rest.  In question?  There are so many places to get information-no one lacks access to knowledge.  

I would explain as best I can, every move I make designing a landscape or garden. Am I worried I am giving away something precious to me?  Nonsense.  What crosses my mind belongs to me, and no one else. What gets shared is a good thing. That said, I am more likely to coach than not.

Comments

  1. You are an amazing teacher and coach. The knowledge I gained while I was on your team is deep and vast and I will be forever grateful!

  2. and that is why, day after day, I look for your blog. Because it has depth and context. It informs me, makes me think, inspires me and makes me a better designer. You should be required reading for landscape design students!

    (On a side note, as you struggle with temps in the 90s, the PNW is struggling with too much rain, not enough heat/sun and temps still in the low 40s at night. A different set of worries, but worries, none the less.)

    • Deborah Silver says:

      Dear Maggie, you are too nice. Thanks for taking the time to respond. Your weather sounds like hell-just like mine. We are bopth wringing our hands, and waking up in the middle of the night, worrying. Stay in touch. Deborah

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